Kandace and I have been friends for 12 years and we’ve experienced so much together—from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows. From the high school years where we were trying to figure out how to fit in to the college years where we really came in to our own, to the post-college years with first jobs, late nights and lots of fun, to navigating friendships and relationships and finally marriage. We’ve gone through homecomings and proms, playing golf, deciding on colleges, mending broken hearts, conquering sickness, finding first jobs, having first loves, celebrating engagements, planning weddings and everything in between. I can truly say I would not be the same person without having her in my life.
As I met my
husband, Newton, and Kandace met Eric, a strange thing started happening. The closer we got to our significant others,
the more we weren’t each other’s first call when something exciting happened or
we had frustrating news to vent about.
In fact, when we were each other’s first call, it was usually to compare
Fro Yo experiences, recent purchases or when we needed advice about the
boys. It wasn’t that we weren’t as close
or our friendship was fading, but rather it was the natural progression of
things, as I truly believe your husband should be your best friend.
It’s taken
some adjustment on both of our parts and we’ve found our stride—I know some
friends come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime and I know
Kandace is my lifetime friend. As I
prepare to hand off my best friend to her new best friend, as she did for me
last year, there are some things you need to know, Eric. So much of this you have experienced, but I
want to make sure you understand the treasure you’ve been given.
Kandace will
always be by your side. She will always
fight for you. She will stick up for you
when you are plain out wrong and she will defend you no matter what. She will always believe the best in you, no
matter how many times you mess up or how many times you come to her with the
same problem over and over again (not that I’ve EVER done that). She will be your biggest supporter and
biggest encourager…just don’t get on her bad side J
2.
She is a TRUTH TELLER.
She will set
you straight even if you don’t want to hear it.
She will defend you to anyone else, but when it comes to just the two of
you she will put you in your place. This
is a RARE quality and the mark of a true friend. She loves you enough to be honest with you. Don’t take that for granted or hold it
against her when all you really want her it to say is “yes, that DOES look good
on you.”
3. She has always had “THE LAUGH.”
I know you
know all about this one by now—you’ve seen enough funny TV shows that is MUST
have slipped out once or twice. The best
thing about the laugh, besides the shock value for those who have never heard
it, is that it’s so reflective of Kandace’s positive view on life. She will be the first one to laugh at jokes
and make people feel at ease; it’s been so fun for me to watch her become more
secure in herself and let that laugh loose and really enjoy life. Plus, if you ever need the attention off you,
it’s almost a guarantee J
Some other quick tidbits of advice: she loves a clean the kitchen, she hates laundry (folding and putting it away), she MUST watch ALL of the lifetime Christmas movies—and there is a 25 day countdown starting December 1—she is always cold, and as you already know she gets a puppy-dog runny nose when she eats…
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